30 August 2015

Christ in Our Midst: Does My Hair Look Okay?

A few years ago, as worship was about to begin at a small Lutheran community in Spokane, WA, a woman in a black velour sweatsuit with caked-on foundation, thick mascara, and dark eyeshadow came into our church along with a man and sat in the back row of our church. To be honest, I wasn’t quite sure what was going to happen. Our little congregation kept talking about wanting more people to come and not being sure how to make it happen. I’ll confess: I was a bit nervous that our “All are Welcome” sign would find its limit that day as people sat silently guessing this woman’s background, her work history, her current marital status, why she found her way to our church door. She seemed so out of place, so lost as we began worship, turning the pages of the bulletin, trying to figure out how it worked, how we worked. And I prayed. I don’t know what I prayed, I don’t know that I prayed for anything… I just prayed. Because sometimes God shows up when we least expect in people and in things that are easy for us to say, “God would never do that.” Dear brothers and sisters, I have become increasingly convinced that “God” and “never” don’t belong in the same sentence.
Not everyone will admit it, but most of us have an idea about things that are good and wholesome for a person and things that are bad for a person. Whether it’s a proper diet and exercise, avoiding certain behaviors while maintaining others, we have a way of creating boundaries that keep us safe. What about our boundaries for what keeps us holy? What about the boundaries about who belongs and doesn’t belong in our communities of faith, in our churches? Most of us probably want to think of ourselves as welcoming to the stranger, but often, we’re welcoming to strangers who look like and think like us.
It is really easy to focus on the external “signs” of holiness, whether it’s a clean-cut appearance, the ways in which we drive (there are good reasons for not putting a in ichthus on a person’s car…), how often our cars are outside the church, how generous we are toward others, and on and on the list goes. We have been programmed from a very young age to make quick judgments based on appearance. Studies have shown that defendants who are more attractive are less likely to be convicted of crimes than less attractive defendants.[1] Sometimes, it’s easier to leave the man for dead in the middle of the road than it is to risk our own reputations, to risk helping someone who may not be trustworthy. There are people who are easier to ignore or look past, there are people whose external appearance causes us to shrink back, to wonder how someone could get to that point in life… there are people who are easier to forget than they are to remember as we drive to church, focusing on our own “stuff,” on keeping ourselves out of trouble, of keeping ourselves “clean,” not associating with anything that might raise a question mark as to our moral status.
            Time and again, people say to me, “If you’re a good person and you do your best, you will be saved.” But what does “being good” mean? Often times, for most of us, it means “looking good,” or looking as though we have it all together, looking as though we might be the sort of people Jesus would want to save. And then Jesus turns the whole thing on its head. “Jesus, why are your disciples eating without washing their hands?” “Why are they disregarding the traditions of the synagogue?” and we ask “Jesus, why are you hanging out with unclean people?” “Why are they disregarding the traditions of the church?”
It’s a tough question. These traditions, kept by our ancestors, taught by countless Sunday school teachers, parents, pastors, and mentors, have bored the roots of our faith deeply into the fertile soil that has kept us steadfast through good times and hard times, kept us hungry for the Word of God to be a lamp to guide our lives. It was a tough question for the Pharisees in Mark, too. “But Jesus, without any external signs, how do we know these people are saved?” Jesus responds, “It’s not what on the outside that determines the cleanliness of a person, it’s not the external boundaries you draw between yourself and those whom you perceive to be ‘sinners’ or ‘out’ that keeps a person holy: it’s what’s in your heart.” Jesus makes it far more uncomfortable for us, who externally look like good church going people, peering into the depths of our hearts, into the motivations behind our doubt and fear, into the motivations that cause us to welcome some folks and not welcome others, into the motivations that lead us to help some people and not help others. What comes from the heart affects our external behavior toward our neighbors. And most of us – by this point in time – know better than to ask Jesus who our neighbor is because we know that Jesus will rarely choose the people who we already think of as our neighbors. Jesus will choose the people who we would never want to consider our neighbors, whom we’d rather leave for dead on the side of the road.
Some of us might be relieved that what defiles comes from the inside and not the outside. As good Lutherans, we know that there is nothing that we can do to save ourselves. This is most certainly true. By the grace of God, we have been saved despite ourselves and our obsession with our external appearance, with “what the neighbors think,” with how others perceive us. But, in the same way that evil thoughts and inclinations come from the inside, so too do the good. Belief – even belief as a Lutheran – is not a “get out of jail free card,” absolving us of our responsibility to and for our neighbors whom we would rather not help and then point to grace as that which saves us rather than our works. Luther himself says
Truly, if faith is there, [the Christian] cannot hold back; he proves himself, breaks out into good works, confesses and teaches this gospel before the people, and stakes his life on it. Everything he lives and does is directed to his neighbor’s profit, in order to help him – not only to the attainment of this grace, but also in body, property, and honor… for where works and love do not break forth, there faith is not right, the gospel does not yet take hold, and Christ is not rightly known.[2]
Our salvation was never conceived of a private event that takes place in our hearts; it was never meant to be between just us and Jesus. Salvation is that which binds us to Christ and, by being bound to Christ, we are bound to all those to whom Christ has bound himself. Our salvation continually points us toward our neighbors, toward those stuck on the side of the road, stuck on the highways of their lives, and beckons us to see in them the face of Christ.
            I’m not sure what the woman’s background was that came to the church 3 ½ years ago. When she was invited to the communion rail, I asked her name, and she said – seriously - “Trinity.” “Trinity, this is the body of Christ, given for you.” It wasn’t at this moment, though, that I saw God moving through this woman. It wasn’t after church, when I watched with my heart swelling as my reasonable respectable and well-to-do congregation approached Trinity, curious, wanting to genuinely welcome her and get to know her better. We learned that she had never seen the man she came into church with before that morning. Standing on the corner outside our church, this woman – who had never been to our church before – had the courage to ask a complete stranger, “Will you come to church with me?” She never came back to our church, and I have become convinced that, on that day, Christ worshipped in our midst.






[1] Bruce W. Darby and Devon JeffersThe Effects of Defendant and Juror Attractiveness on Simulated Courtroom Decisions, Social Behavior and Personality 16 (1988):39-50; R. Michael Bagby, James D. Parker, Neil A. Rector, and Valery Kalemba, Racial Prejudice in the Canadial Legal System: Juror Decisions in a Simulated Rape Trial, Law and Human Behavior 18 (1994): 339-350.


[2] Martin Luther, “Prefaces to the New Testament,” 361.

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